Jun 17 2008
Swagger vs. Stagger
In the hippity hop community, swagger is a BIG thing. It is that air of confidence that a man has about him, that je ne sais quois that makes the ladies swoooooon. Some men just have a certain something that draws you in and it’s not their car or clothes or any of those tangible things. Swagger is in the intangible, in a man’s essence.
I have an acquaintance that had swagger when he was younger. He was fresh out of college with a degree in engineering, lots of connections and was headed somewhere. Now, 4 years later, he is older, still living with his parents and not working in his degreed area. He lost alllllll his swag and ambition as he aged & fell into a false sense of what GAVE him swag (that is short for Swagger for those of you in the cheap seats). He now thinks it is in his wallet.
That is not swagger, that is stagger. If you took away all signs of him having “money” he would stumble, fumble and fall. STAGGER! If you already had swagger, money enhances as long as you KNOW that YOU make the money and the money doesn’t make you. When you lose your swagger to your money, you have ceased being self-confident. And therefore, when your stacks are taken away, you stagger.
Prime example, my aforementioned acquaintance joined us on a trip to the Caribbean. The women outnumbered the men, the weather was wonderful, the rum was flowing like water & yet, he could not seal one deal. The women were of the mindset that whatever happened on vacation STAYED on vacation. And even with his BEST efforts, he could not get any of that vacation good-good. He asked me if he was sexy and as I looked at his terrible dental “work” (meaning he NEEDED some work DONE) I decided it was best NOT to answer. Afterall, I didn’t want to deflate his minimally inflated vacation swagger. But as I thought back on it, who was he kidding? If you have to ASK if you are sexy or swaggalicicious… then the answer is likely a resounding: NO!
When you have stagger, S-T-A-G-G-E-R , you are often propped up by material things. When all those material things that you pride yourself on are stripped away and you cannot seal the deal or even BEGIN to MAKE one…Know & trust that you are NOT Swaggtastic.
Take this as a lesson in Swagger, you swaggerless wannabes wandering aimlessly through life hoping to stumble into some confidence and a little je ne sais quois. Money doesn’t make the swagger, swagger makes the money!
I’m not hating, I’m just stating.
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