Not hating, Just stating…

I have been forced into finally getting this out.

I care about the Chris Brown & Rhianna incident. I do. I will discuss the possibilities & ramifications. I will.

But what I will not do is convict the boy based on reports of reports and third & fourth party information. What I KNOW: is something happened between them; Rhianna went into hiding; Chris Brown went into hiding; the DA has not brought a case against Chris Brown; Chris Brown is now persona non grata. That is IT!

All of these people going around talking about black eyes, contusions, unconciousness. You HEARD that… how does it make it true? I have heard stories from people in the music industry that are at both ends of the spectrum… how does that make it true? If you want to discuss domestic violence, then discuss that. If you want Chris Brown convicted of a crime, then you will just have to wait. People are up in arms over something that right now has a million angles and missing pieces. I just hope that these people that have found him guilty are right. Because if not, this child’s life as he knows it is ruined. But until he IS found guilty, I am not going to make him the poster child for Domestic Violence or fault him for keeping quiet. He has a case pending.

On the other hand, why hasn’t Rhianna said anything. Why hasn’t she spoken out against this allegedly ongoing abuse? Part of the problem with domestic violence is the woman not speaking up & out. Why is it either of their jobs to say ANYTHING? If you have a child that loves Rihanna or Chris Brown… YOU sit down & talk to them about domestic violence. YOU be the role model. Superstar or not they are both YOUNG and still learning about life & love. No one should expect them to be perfect, they are human. Think back to when you were 19 & 20 and the things that you said and did that should or could have gotten you into trouble. There but for the grace…

I have witnessed domestic violence from almost every angle, it is serious. This is why I am not announcing a verdict until I have all the credible evidence. If he did bite her, choke her, punch her, and leave her unconcious on the side of the road; then, with her cooperation the law will take care of that. If it turns out that MUCH of what has been alleged is untrue; then I pray that they both have learned a lesson from this and grow from it and this young man can put his life back together.

I have family, friends & acquaintances both male & female that have been involved in domestic violence incidents. Some went unreported, some were FALSELY reported, some charges were dropped by the alleged victim but were still prosecuted by the state. It is just interesting to me how stars much older than these two have been accused of similar crimes and then some, but people took the wait & see approach. But not in this case. I in no way excuse domestic abuse of any kind verbal, physical, emotional. But I also recognize that the abusive person is not always the man. I have seen it enough to know.

I am not taking up for Chris Brown or Rihanna, I am simply saying. The FACTS are listed above… everything else is speculation, rumors, lies, and hearsay. You are welcome to have your OPINION. But please, stop losing friendships and getting all out of sorts over a YOUNG man & YOUNG woman who wouldn’t even know you if they saw you on the street.

Please & thank you… I bid you good day!

I don’t think I knew or fully understood that at 30, I would suddenly turn into a 13 year old. My hormones and body have reverted to pubescent times…

My skin… my pride & joy is more like a map of the surface of the moon… hills, craters, valleys… WHAT!??! It wasn’t supposed to be this way. But that is indeed how it is. and it’s itchy… am I allergic to 30? say it ain’t so! At first I thought it was just my new bangs. But uuuuh, it has spread all across my face like a Chris Brown rumor! *sigh*I don’t even know what to do about it… I guess I will have to get my doctor to refer me to a good dermatologist because this is NOT ok!

Uneven growth spurts… I thought I was done growing. UP maybe, but not out. my left side has decided to be its own person. It is seceding from the union and making its independence known MUCH to the chagrin of my clothes & shoes.

Hormonious… I feel like I JUST discovered the male species. Like they JUST found a cure for cooties & now it’s ok to go near them. Not only is it ok, but it is preferable & necessary. I’m not a cougar though because I am liking them young or old. I’m not a benefits “whore” like I used to be because I have been eyeballing men who couldn’t possibly have direct deposit let alone a benefits package. I’m not even discreet about it. I stare, I turn around & look back. I even wave & smile. WHAT? WHY? I don’t know… I don’t do anything but shoot them down if they actually mistake my ogling for flirtation or REAL interest… I am 13 again. (Shout out to ILB…. weeeee’re baaaaaack!!)

I want 29 back. I preferred the oily t-zone & occasional dry patch over the all over outbreak of mini-acne. I preferred the defiant love handle that could be tamed by a few weeks of low carbs over the entire mutation of my left hand side into some buxom chick twice my size & half my age. I preferred the role of coy mistress giggling behind her hand over the “Hey how YOU doin?” that I am fighting against now.

I am now in search of acne treatments, proper fitting garments, and a hobby that won’t get my fast behind in trouble. When people welcomed me to 30 & told me I would love it… I believed them. But THIS, I do not love! I hope within the next FEW months this ceases & desists & everything comes together like it did summer before 11th grade… And I once again become a dime… and not this 5 pennies & a nickel mess I got workin now!

Last night, President Barack Obama got busy on the mic at his first official press conference since becoming the 44th President of the United States. The economy is in a state and the press corps was ready to pounce. But Mr. President had something for them… ANSWERS! What a 180!

One of my friends commented that he looked angry. But I don’t think it was that. It was reminiscent of the look my mommy used to give me when I did the wrong thing after she and I had discussed what was the right thing. It was a look of frustration, disgust & disappointment. More of a “Tsk, tsk, tsk!” He didn’t act like the smartest man in the room like 43, and we all know that there were interns in the room smarter than he. He answered questions with a confidence and assurance that has long been missing from Press Conferences of the past few years; Press Conferences that I did not watch in their entirety due to the welling up of anger from the depths of my everything. Not only did he answer the questions asked, he answered the follow-up questions that those questions would likely beget. He took the each one, teach one approach and put it all out there. He proved that he wasn’t deaf to the poli-chat going on in regards to this stimulus bill. He knew that what was being said about this bill was inaccurate and being skewed.

In the past, people actually LIKED the way W. acted like a jerk & answered questions with NON-answers & took the “I run this” approach. Because we were in a war & under terrorist threat & needed an unwavering authoritative figure… blah blah BLECH! And now that Obama is showing & proving he is being inclusive without being a bully or a push-over people don’t know how to act or how to feel. He was informative, without being condescending. He was admonishing without being an azz. He didn’t just talk tough & look goofy. He was honest and earnest and confident. What a 180!

For all of those out there that loved Bush’s “follow or get out of the way” attitude, a new day is here. I know you enjoyed being ignorant & feeling protected. I know you are not used to feeling included and informed. But this is what change feels like. EMBRACE it! I just want you to understand that this new Congress is voting on the old Congress’ package, with a few changes so quit feeling sorry for the goobers that helped construct it but refuse to pass it, ok? Ok!

It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day… it’s a new life…. Welcome to the LIGHT side… No more being lied to & kept in the dark. America just got out of a bad relationship & now we have a good man in our corner. He is open & honest, sometimes brutally so but he is what we need right now to get through this tough time. We almost broke up with that last guy, but he convinced us to take him back. Face it, that last guy was just not that into you. Now he is out of our lives for good & we are realizing that we made ourselves believe we were in a safe, secure relationship because we did not want to be alone. 44 is helping us see what a mature relationship feels like… it is strange & new, but in the end… it’s not only what we need but what we deserve.