Feb 13 2009
He Said, She Said, I Said STFU! (part 2)
I have been forced into finally getting this out.
I care about the Chris Brown & Rhianna incident. I do. I will discuss the possibilities & ramifications. I will.
But what I will not do is convict the boy based on reports of reports and third & fourth party information. What I KNOW: is something happened between them; Rhianna went into hiding; Chris Brown went into hiding; the DA has not brought a case against Chris Brown; Chris Brown is now persona non grata. That is IT!
All of these people going around talking about black eyes, contusions, unconciousness. You HEARD that… how does it make it true? I have heard stories from people in the music industry that are at both ends of the spectrum… how does that make it true? If you want to discuss domestic violence, then discuss that. If you want Chris Brown convicted of a crime, then you will just have to wait. People are up in arms over something that right now has a million angles and missing pieces. I just hope that these people that have found him guilty are right. Because if not, this child’s life as he knows it is ruined. But until he IS found guilty, I am not going to make him the poster child for Domestic Violence or fault him for keeping quiet. He has a case pending.
On the other hand, why hasn’t Rhianna said anything. Why hasn’t she spoken out against this allegedly ongoing abuse? Part of the problem with domestic violence is the woman not speaking up & out. Why is it either of their jobs to say ANYTHING? If you have a child that loves Rihanna or Chris Brown… YOU sit down & talk to them about domestic violence. YOU be the role model. Superstar or not they are both YOUNG and still learning about life & love. No one should expect them to be perfect, they are human. Think back to when you were 19 & 20 and the things that you said and did that should or could have gotten you into trouble. There but for the grace…
I have witnessed domestic violence from almost every angle, it is serious. This is why I am not announcing a verdict until I have all the credible evidence. If he did bite her, choke her, punch her, and leave her unconcious on the side of the road; then, with her cooperation the law will take care of that. If it turns out that MUCH of what has been alleged is untrue; then I pray that they both have learned a lesson from this and grow from it and this young man can put his life back together.
I have family, friends & acquaintances both male & female that have been involved in domestic violence incidents. Some went unreported, some were FALSELY reported, some charges were dropped by the alleged victim but were still prosecuted by the state. It is just interesting to me how stars much older than these two have been accused of similar crimes and then some, but people took the wait & see approach. But not in this case. I in no way excuse domestic abuse of any kind verbal, physical, emotional. But I also recognize that the abusive person is not always the man. I have seen it enough to know.
I am not taking up for Chris Brown or Rihanna, I am simply saying. The FACTS are listed above… everything else is speculation, rumors, lies, and hearsay. You are welcome to have your OPINION. But please, stop losing friendships and getting all out of sorts over a YOUNG man & YOUNG woman who wouldn’t even know you if they saw you on the street.
Please & thank you… I bid you good day!
this is so true! I’m so tired of the press…chat rooms… Or bogus websites making up stories! And convicting people before they are brought before judge and jury! Too often black men are dragged thru the justice system in this fashion, and tried in the public against hearsay and fuckery! The only people who can comment are chris and rhianna!! Until you know what happened stop the speculation with the lack of evidence!