Jun 03 2009
Games People Play
“Night or day they’re just not matching what they should do. Keep me feeling blue.” -The Spinners
Part one:
I am a firm believer in doing what you say & saying what you’re gonna do. If you think that making me an empty promise is the way to keep me happy or hanging on, ya dead wrong! If you think that NOT saying something to me directly about something that will have an affect on me will keep me from getting upset, ya dead wrong!
Tell the truth upfront & let the chips fall where they may. Manipulating truth is lying, omitting parts of the truth is lying by omission, and just flat out lying is your ARSE! I hate being lied to like ANYONE, but most of all I hate being manipulated and having energy transferred to me that I don’t deserve. Transferring energy is a little like deflecting only there are only two people involved and the person to whom you are giving the business feels trapped in their own lie & tries to accuse you of something similar to their transgression in an effort to take the guilt off of them. This doesn’t work with me because I’M SMART! So why do it? Because you like to play games and manipulate situations to your advantage and when mirror is held up to you, you refuse to look in it. It’s time to get off the playground & step into adulthood… I don’t want to play tag or hide-n-seek or monkey in the middle… You can have fun with someone without playing games.
Part two:
“Don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone?”- Joni Mitchell
This is a recurring theme for me. We’re “dating”, “seeing each other”, “talking”, “hanging out”and for some reason I start to make “demands” of you that you cannot fulfill. Not ultimatums, or even real demands… just requests for simple things like quality time or a night out once in a while. (Who would remain interested in someone that never went out with them, right? only a fool or a sukka, right? RIGHT!) So I start to feel that the relating-ship (I use that term for the commitmentphobic folks so as not to have it confused with “relationship” which includes titles & responsibilities for each others feelings and general treating the other person like a human being) is slowly deteriorating & I bring it to your attention before it fizzles & fades. I am not an unreasonable person, I give it time to get fixed. BUt after I have brought it up a FEW times & am met with nothing but the aforementioned games, I let you know it’s not gonna work for me & I get *GONE*. I don’t call like I used to, I don’t respond to you the way I used to & we definitely don’t do the things we used to. SUddenly and much too late you realize something is amiss… and it’s time to do soemthing about it. CORRECTION, it’s too late.
As a result of your game playing, you are now sitting there thinking about the way things used to be. *cue Joni*
“Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s *GONE*
They paved paradise
And put up a parking lot.”
Jason,
I am easy to please. Quality Time to me is time OUTSIDE of the house once a week or so. I don’t need to be nor do I LIKE to be sweated… but I do NEED to see you on a regular basis at a decent hour… lol
Jason,
BEHAVE!
Now I will be singing that song all night. Thanks!
I forgot to leave my comment, I hate games. Once you turn 17 all games should be laid to rest.
I remind mine(z) that you won’t EVER find anyone that will be as good to you as I have been. Simply put “it don’t get no betta den dis” so lets anti up because ALL will suffer if this here thang don’t work out.
If Mommy aint happy NOBODY is happy, that is true. Love me right, treat me right, and take me out means nothing but brighter and happier days for you.
Men need to learn this LONG before it is too late. Nothing is worse then a tired arse negro.
Mimi aka da lips
“relating-ship” <– that’s funny. (Let me play a little devil’s advocate.) Let me first say that I agree with you totally, but I have a question… If you want those things what’s wrong with you initiating them?
I have, Tex… Now what? lol
LMAO… I have no answer. Although this makes me think of a situation where the girl says, “We talk everyday, but you never call.” What difference does it make as long as we talk? Is it just the chase, the effort?
the EFFORT… the last thing you want to do is feel like you chasing someone down… It shouldn’t come down to keeping score… but you want to feel like he likes you as much as you like him.
I agree WHOLEHEARTEDLY… and if that is the guy I CHOSE… then he is subsequently the guy I am CHOOSING to get rid of… SEE YA!
Sista,
Most folks can’t be honest with themselves, let alone other people. Games are innate to human consciousness. I mean they do suck sometimes but hey, you can’t expect a cat to bark. Humans are mental labrynths most people never take time to know themselves.
Introspection and good conversation are rare qualities these days. But you sound like your hella hip, I expect you will find someone to cut through the BS.
Respect